Saturday, July 4, 2009

July 4th 2009


As we are preparing our barbecues, lining up the buns and the hot dogs, and getting ready to watch fireworks. I have been ruminating on what it means to be an American these days. Where the catch phrase "Greed is Good" has taken hold in mind body and spirit to the detriment of the majority but for the profit of the share holder, torture is sanctioned and there our nuclear bombs pointed at Hawaii.



At the moment, I feel about being an American, sort of like how I feel about being a member of my family. I wouldn't live anywhere else be apart of any other tribe, but I do hold quite a lot of guilt and embarrassment about it. Yet, I still believe in the promise of our country and our Declaration of Independence. I don't want to restore it to our glory days, but I want to see a more conscious and compassionate nation rise one that won't allow torture or corporate greed, that allows all people to get married regardless of their sex, and health care for all. Because in the end, we as a country will not be judged by how we treated the wealthy and the privileged but by how we treated the needy, our children and the elderly the weakest among us.


The Unanimous Declaration
of the Thirteen United States of America

When, in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bonds which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the laws of nature and of nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. That to secure these rights, governments are instituted among men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed. That whenever any form of government becomes destructive to these ends, it is the right of the people to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their safety and happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shown that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such government, and to provide new guards for their future security. --Such has been the patient sufferance of these colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former systems of government. The history of the present King of Great Britain is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute tyranny over these states. To prove this, let facts be submitted to a candid world.

He has refused his assent to laws, the most wholesome and necessary for the public good.

He has forbidden his governors to pass laws of immediate and pressing importance, unless suspended in their operation till his assent should be obtained; and when so suspended, he has utterly neglected to attend to them.

He has refused to pass other laws for the accommodation of large districts of people, unless those people would relinquish the right of representation in the legislature, a right inestimable to them and formidable to tyrants only.

He has called together legislative bodies at places unusual, uncomfortable, and distant from the depository of their public records, for the sole purpose of fatiguing them into compliance with his measures.

He has dissolved representative houses repeatedly, for opposing with manly firmness his invasions on the rights of the people.

He has refused for a long time, after such dissolutions, to cause others to be elected; whereby the legislative powers, incapable of annihilation, have returned to the people at large for their exercise; the state remaining in the meantime exposed to all the dangers of invasion from without, and convulsions within.

He has endeavored to prevent the population of these states; for that purpose obstructing the laws for naturalization of foreigners; refusing to pass others to encourage their migration hither, and raising the conditions of new appropriations of lands.

He has obstructed the administration of justice, by refusing his assent to laws for establishing judiciary powers.

He has made judges dependent on his will alone, for the tenure of their offices, and the amount and payment of their salaries.

He has erected a multitude of new offices, and sent hither swarms of officers to harass our people, and eat out their substance.

He has kept among us, in times of peace, standing armies without the consent of our legislature.

He has affected to render the military independent of and superior to civil power.

He has combined with others to subject us to a jurisdiction foreign to our constitution, and unacknowledged by our laws; giving his assent to their acts of pretended legislation:

For quartering large bodies of armed troops among us:

For protecting them, by mock trial, from punishment for any murders which they should commit on the inhabitants of these states:

For cutting off our trade with all parts of the world:

For imposing taxes on us without our consent:

For depriving us in many cases, of the benefits of trial by jury:

For transporting us beyond seas to be tried for pretended offenses:


For abolishing the free system of English laws in a neighboring province, establishing therein an arbitrary government, and enlarging its boundaries so as to render it at once an example and fit instrument for introducing the same absolute rule in these colonies:

For taking away our charters, abolishing our most valuable laws, and altering fundamentally the forms of our governments:

For suspending our own legislatures, and declaring themselves invested with power to legislate for us in all cases whatsoever.

He has abdicated government here, by declaring us out of his protection and waging war against us.

He has plundered our seas, ravaged our coasts, burned our towns, and destroyed the lives of our people.

He is at this time transporting large armies of foreign mercenaries to complete the works of death, desolation and tyranny, already begun with circumstances of cruelty and perfidy scarcely paralleled in the most barbarous ages, and totally unworthy the head of a civilized nation.

He has constrained our fellow citizens taken captive on the high seas to bear arms against their country, to become the executioners of their friends and brethren, or to fall themselves by their hands.

He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us, and has endeavored to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers, the merciless Indian savages, whose known rule of warfare, is undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions.

In every stage of these oppressions we have petitioned for redress in the most humble terms: our repeated petitions have been answered only by repeated injury. A prince, whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free people.

Nor have we been wanting in attention to our British brethren. We have warned them from time to time of attempts by their legislature to extend an unwarrantable jurisdiction over us. We have reminded them of the circumstances of our emigration and settlement here. We have appealed to their native justice and magnanimity, and we have conjured them by the ties of our common kindred to disavow these usurpations, which, would inevitably interrupt our connections and correspondence. They too have been deaf to the voice of justice and of consanguinity. We must, therefore, acquiesce in the necessity, which denounces our separation, and hold them, as we hold the rest of mankind, enemies in war, in peace friends.

We, therefore, the representatives of the United States of America, in General Congress, assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of our intentions, do, in the name, and by the authority of the good people of these colonies, solemnly publish and declare, that these united colonies are, and of right ought to be free and independent states; that they are absolved from all allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the state of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as free and independent states, they have full power to levy war, conclude peace, contract alliances, establish commerce, and to do all other acts and things which independent states may of right do. And for the support of this declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of Divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our lives, our fortunes and our sacred honor.

New Hampshire: Josiah Bartlett, William Whipple, Matthew Thornton

Massachusetts: John Hancock, Samual Adams, John Adams, Robert Treat Paine, Elbridge Gerry

Rhode Island: Stephen Hopkins, William Ellery

Connecticut: Roger Sherman, Samuel Huntington, William Williams, Oliver Wolcott

New York: William Floyd, Philip Livingston, Francis Lewis, Lewis Morris

New Jersey: Richard Stockton, John Witherspoon, Francis Hopkinson, John Hart, Abraham Clark

Pennsylvania: Robert Morris, Benjamin Rush, Benjamin Franklin, John Morton, George Clymer, James Smith, George Taylor, James Wilson, George Ross

Delaware: Caesar Rodney, George Read, Thomas McKean

Maryland: Samuel Chase, William Paca, Thomas Stone, Charles Carroll of Carrollton

Virginia: George Wythe, Richard Henry Lee, Thomas Jefferson, Benjamin Harrison, Thomas Nelson, Jr., Francis Lightfoot Lee, Carter Braxton

North Carolina: William Hooper, Joseph Hewes, John Penn

South Carolina: Edward Rutledge, Thomas Heyward, Jr., Thomas Lynch, Jr., Arthur Middleton

Georgia: Button Gwinnett, Lyman Hall, George Walton

Source: The Pennsylvania Packet, July 8, 1776
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Thursday, July 2, 2009

Lift 'em up girls !!!


Ladies your boobies are sad, very sad. I have seen 'em at the park, at the mall and at the zoo. They miss their glory days when they stood at attention and said "hello world!" They want to be perky with cleavage. They don't want to flippy flopp all over your chest with one going right and one going left or worse yet hang down low. They want to know why you have forsaken them as blobby appendages? They are sad, very sad.






I say this out of loving kindness. I know with age, gravity and breast feeding your boobies are tired they are looking a little worse for the wear. But the time is now to pay 'em a little loving kindness and restore them to their glory days. Nope, I am not suggesting implants, unless you want them and they'll make you happy then by all means go for it!!! Here are some easy tips to perk 'em up and keep 'em healthy:





  • Get measured --when was the last time you were measured? The majority of women are wearing the wrong cup size and or back size.






  • Buy a good bra --you need support, good support. I love Wacoal bras, they retail for about $60 and are worth every penny. They wear well and they keep everything high and supported. You can find them at most major department stores (Macy's, Von Maur, Nordstrom and online).






  • Bench press -- believe it or not you do some bench presses and everything starts going back up north instead of south. A personal trainer told me this tip and he was soooo right.












  • Feel 'em up -- give yourself a monthly exam. Did you know that the monthly self exam is the key to early breast cancer detection? If you need help check out Save the ta-tas and you can buy boob lube that comes with instructions on how to give yourself and exam!






  • Get 'em tested -- by 35 most women should have had their first base-line mammogram -- shame on me I have not done this but I am planning too. Will you go too? Promise me.







So girls lift up your "girls". And most importantly keep 'em healthy. I am telling you it will change your life!!!





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Saturday, June 27, 2009

I will not take these things for granted


This morning my cell phone started ringing at 7:15. In my 37 years on this planet I have come to know for certain that no good news arrives early in the morning or late into the evening. My friend, Kathrine, her husband passed away this morning. Michael was 45 and left a wife and two sons behind. If you were to have met Michael you would have encountered one of the most positive cancer patients. He once told me that he would pop out of bed in the mornings at 5 am because he just was so happy to be alive that he didn't want to waste the day. He was not fearful of dying, he was fearful of not living. Michael wanted to squeeze life out of every minute of every day whether it was watching a baseball game, talking about his faith or smelling the top of a baby's head. He was just happy to have the day and happy to be alive.


When I think of all the things I take for granted every day. I got to wake up on this truly glorious June morning, the sun was shinning the birds were chirping. So in honor of Michael and the life he lived, the life he really lived I decided to make a list of the things I will no longer take for granted.




  1. My health I will stay away from junk food or at least try

  2. My family especially my husband I know your husband drives you nuts but today tell him you love him

  3. The planet I have been picking up litter on the street and throwing it out

  4. The people I love I have been a bit stingy with the "I love yous" and the hugs

  5. My writing I will continue to be creative no matter what

I hope you take a few minutes today and write your list. If you send me your list, I will publish it next week.
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Friday, June 26, 2009

Michael Jackson: Speaking Ill of the Dead




Unless you live under a rock buried twenty feet under ground, you have heard that Michael Jackson died yesterday. I find it fascinating how the media is alternately rushing to canonize and demonize him. I was listening to a reporter on MSNBC yesterday talking about how Jackson was a narcissistic pedophile. The vitriol in her voice was jarring. She works for Vanity Fair and at some point interviewed him. It seemed to me that her anger was misplaced somewhat. For an alternate view, here is a touching tribute written by Gotham Chopra that was posted on the Huffington Report today: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gotham-chopra/my-friend-mike_b_221280.html.





Now, I was a pre-teen in the mid-80's. I have fond memories of learning the dance moves to the Thriller video in my friend's basement. They were twins and for the life of me I can't remember their names, but we bonded over our love for the gloved one. My favorite Jackson era was Billy Jean. I still love that album. Again, who grew up in the 80's and didn't own a Jackson album? As I grew up, I watched Jackson's meteoric rise and his bizarre fall from grace.





The thought that has been running through my head is the idea that you don't really know a person unless you walk in their shoes. For us mere mortals, it is impossible to place ourselves in his studded shoes. I am not sure that a celebrity on this planet had the fame and adoration that Jackson did. It was almost like we warped his soul with our love. How could he possibly been normal with all that fame? I don't think his day- to-day life was anything that any of us could ever wrap our brains around.






I know it is so easy to distill a person's life into a headline or media bite. Something pithy, something catchy. Over the next several days, the allegations will arise, fingers will be pointed, and more dirt will make it's way to the surface. But in the end, it is my hope that we remember the light and music Jackson brought into the world. And, try not to speak ill of the dead because at the end of the day we could never even begin to imagine what it was like to walk in his shoes. Never in a million years.


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Thursday, June 25, 2009

Wake Up Call





Wake up calls come in all forms. Today, I received a wake up call of sorts. Two years ago I quit my job to start a marketing consulting business so I could stay home with my daughter. To be honest, the job wasn't working out so well and quitting seemed like the right thing to do. You know the old Kenny Roger's song,"Sometimes you got to know when to hold 'em, when to fold 'em, when to walk away and when to run." So I walked away. Business was good until last fall. I had steady work that we supplemented with our savings here and there. And the best part was I got to be with Alena. Mentally transitioning from working mother to stay-at-home mother was a bit of a struggle for me. Now I love being at home. I love going to the pool, playing in the sand, play dates, nap time, making dinner. All of it. The job suits me just fine.



As the months tick by and our savings has become non-existent it is looking more and more that I will need to return to work. I will re-enter corporate America kicking and screaming. The thought of working in a cube under florescent lights makes my stomach turn. And the thought of not being there when Alena wakes up from her nap makes me want to cry. Yet I know in comparison to what some people are facing my sacrifices hard as they may be are well silly in comparison.



My wake up call today came in the form of a phone call from an old friend. Cancer and our close friends are becoming synonymous. Her husband is very sick. He's in pain. He's on oxygen. They are hoping to get him to chemo tomorrow to shrink the tumors in his body to buy him more time. She told me today,"I just want more time with my husband."



As I was feeling sorry for myself, wallowing in my own little pity party. My friend was across town praying for more time with her husband. Praying not for more money, but for more time. So, what is the moral of today's blog? Where am I going with all this? We, myself included, have been so focused on our banks accounts that we have taken for granted our lives. We have become so focused on the bottom line on all the material things we have or might loose we have lost sight of what is truly important. The fact that I am sitting here in good health writing this blog is a blessing. My wish for you today is that you will really see all the things you have to be truly grateful for.

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